Originally Posted by GP
Why do people find such great amusement and even glory in things like what Charlie Sheen does (reckless, senseless partying...as a daily lifestyle)?
Why do guys like him get a pass? Air time on TV shows?
Here a guy like Steinberg has tried that route and apparently it's not all it's cracked up to be. A lot of this is our culture. We're being told that fame breeds success and you can skip all the steps that hardworking "schmucks" have to go through to earn success.
Reminds me of the scene in Goodfellas when Ray Liotta's character, Henry, says (narrates) "We loved the life of being a wise guy. We were called wise guys because it was the life, and nobody wanted to be some schmuck working a regular job..." I'm paraphrasing, but you remember the speech I'm talking about.
We have people whose unemployment has expired and so they're filing for disability. Where does this level of "I give up, it's no use" come from? IMO, it comes from rhetoric that says America is evil and it's systems are evil, and you have NO CHANCE to succeed here. Meanwhile, immigrants come to this country--escaping TRUE evil found in their original homeland--and they have hardly any money in their pockets when they get here...and they end up paying the bills, sending their kid to college, and they live the American life just fine.
Sorry to be ranting, but the state of America apparently sucks ONLY IF you are born here and are charged with the responsibility and "challenge" of making your own success here. In this case, you have NO chance to succeed, the system is against you, and so your best bet is to make a YouTube video or participate in Occupy rallies.
Others who immigrate here are finding ways to work their way up the ladder and establish their own success here.
People like Steinberg quietly squander their talents and forget the keys to their success, but guys like Charile Sheen are OVERTLY flaunting their failures and in a lot of circles it's held up as a virtue or some sort of awesome expression. But in both cases, it's indicative (IMO) of a culture that says things should be handed to us...and when the going gets rough, just say "Eff it" and soak in your own misery. Sometimes, when I get on this train of thought, it makes me understand (not "excuse," but merely "understand") why some 3rd World countries have people who despise our country and what it is...we're the wealthiest nation, as a whole, and we're like petulant babies who **** themselves from birth to age 90 without ever learning how to go to the potty or get our own food. That's going to tend to wear some people out over time.
I think it's a matter of "fight or flight."
Every human being has a fight or flight response to things.
A good buddy of mine was in the same industry as me. Talented guy, as I am. Things got rough for both of us at one point, and we were both laid off.
That was several years ago. He has never recovered. It's stunning. I've bounced back after some turbulence, but, eventually found my path. It's amazing to me how he's still struggling with something that happened 8 years ago. I have tried to help him, but he doesn't seem interested. I think his confidence is shot.
I do not say that to judge him. Even he admitted that he flees when things get rough.
My point is, when things go bad, either people bounce back and try and recover, or they stay down and get mired in depression. Not sure what the answer is.
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