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HouSportsWriter
03-13-2010, 03:04 PM
i was recently kicked out of school for missing so many days.....my great grandma *101 years old* is in the hospital and she like died 3 times but some how she made it shes in rehab now

she fell and broker her hip she had to have surgery she had a heart attack and her kidneys shut down 2 times i was so nervious i could not bring my self to go to school worried she would die

im relly sorry i got kicked out of school for this year! im going back next year and i will do alot beter




now for the good news!

she is now walking with a walker when she takes pain pills


and some news about me

i just got a call today from j and j nursery off of 2920 wanting me to work for them i got hired i go to work monday minium wage

Farough
03-13-2010, 03:11 PM
I hope that you go back to school next year. Working for minimum wage is not the way to go.

awtysst
03-13-2010, 06:11 PM
I hope that you go back to school next year. Working for minimum wage is not the way to go.

Agreed. Its hard for a person to acquire a good job without a degree.

NitroGSXR
03-13-2010, 06:23 PM
Agreed. Its hard for a person to acquire a good job without a degree.

Sucks but true. On the flip side, school's not for everyone.

awtysst
03-13-2010, 06:31 PM
Sucks but true. On the flip side, school's not for everyone.

Sure, but you pretty much NEED a high school diploma these days. While a GED can be ok, some places require a hs diploma.

valleytexfan
03-13-2010, 07:02 PM
Sometimes life gets in the way of school. It happens. But don't forget about school by any means. Worst case scenario, go get your GED, man. You can't get by anymore just working with no diploma/GED. It's too dang hard.
College isn't for everyone but you gotta get your high school diploma or at least GED. Good luck and glad your grandmother is better.

Section516
03-13-2010, 07:56 PM
Trust me.

Go to school, get an education, or prepare for a hard hard life. While schools not for everyone, the alternative is for even less. Its working long hours of hard jobs that don't pay well to hopefully one day move up, or join the Army (What i did).

You may hate school, and school may hate you, but its worth it.

playa465
03-13-2010, 09:46 PM
I'm happy for ur grandma but get ur BUTT back in school (evening classes, online etc.)...I'm sure ur grandma would want you to at least finish. Life isn't always fair nor sympathetic...you're going to have to work twice as hard with ur grandma to help, working and school but it's worth it...get it done now vs later or you will regret it...I know I did

StarStruck
03-14-2010, 12:22 AM
I didn't realize that you were a college student. I'm glad that your grandmother is recovering and doing well.

BSofA04
03-14-2010, 01:01 AM
slatonisabeast, my initial thought is missing school for a year will make it easier for you to not go next year. Kind of like a college student taking a semester off, promising to go the next year and 5 years later, wishing he finished what he started.

I'm sorry for your grandma, and I'm happy that even at 100+ she is still alive, but c'mon man!!!!!!! In the grand scheme of things, your grandma wants you to finish school so you don't have to earn minimum wages for a living. Take the time to grieve, but don't put yourself in a position to where you're getting kicked out of school because you're missing too many days.

Drew_Smoke
03-14-2010, 10:27 AM
Get back to school, dude. There ain't a frickin' thing worth dropping out for. Believe me...the quality of the honeys at J & J can't touch those at your school. Get back...NOW!

Life is tough...it's tougher if you're stoopid. And being stoopid is a choice. YOU are better than that, man!


It really sucks you have no responsible adult in your life to lead you by example.

TheIronDuke
03-14-2010, 11:50 AM
Your parents just let you not go to school? Very responsible parenting! :clap:

My grandmother died of cancer, in my house, two months before I graduated high school. I think I maybe missed one day of school. I cannot believe your parents would be so irresponsible to let you skip school because your great grandmother was sick.

HouSportsWriter
03-14-2010, 02:20 PM
no it not my parents fault i thrue fits at school and i made them come get \
me...i know im stuped....yes i thaught about suicide school is just to much for
me im praying it will be easyer next year...

Drew_Smoke
03-14-2010, 04:03 PM
no it not my parents fault i thrue fits at school and i made them come get \
me...i know im stuped....yes i thaught about suicide school is just to much for
me im praying it will be easyer next year...

Then someone needs to show you that "fits" are not acceptable. I think that is a lesson I would teach my kids with an ass whoopin' or 5.

There's a school down in Harlingen your folks oughta look into. Tailor made for kids like you, too. Hopefully they will.

awtysst
03-14-2010, 06:13 PM
no it not my parents fault i thrue fits at school and i made them come get \
me...i know im stuped....yes i thaught about suicide school is just to much for
me im praying it will be easyer next year...

My suggestion to you is get into some good therapy/counseling to work through the problems you are currently facing. That way when you go back to school next year(perhaps even summer school now) you will have the coping strategies in hand to deal with your emotional problems.

There is nothing wrong with having emotional problems as long as you are taking steps to work through them.

valleytexfan
03-14-2010, 10:46 PM
Then someone needs to show you that "fits" are not acceptable. I think that is a lesson I would teach my kids with an ass whoopin' or 5.

There's a school down in Harlingen your folks oughta look into. Tailor made for kids like you, too. Hopefully they will.

You got it, Roc, three letters: MMA. I've seen and heard of countless young men who come down here and get straightened out. Discipline and structure...

MODS please delete that first post...apologies

NitroGSXR
03-14-2010, 11:03 PM
You got it, Roc, three letters: MMA. I've seen and heard of countless young men who come down here and get straightened out. Discipline and structure...

MODS please delete that first post...apologies

MMA? Really? I don't know about teaching them to fight would be better than trade school? Automotive mechanics make a good, honest, and safe living.

FWIW, I think slaton is full of doodoo. I believe his misspellings to be greatly exaggerated and intentional. The guy can spell poise, recently, attack but not better or really? C'mon now... when will this charade end?

stingray
03-15-2010, 12:08 AM
MMA? Really? I don't know about teaching them to fight would be better than trade school? Automotive mechanics make a good, honest, and safe living.

FWIW, I think slaton is full of doodoo. I believe his misspellings to be greatly exaggerated and intentional. The guy can spell poise, recently, attack but not better or really? C'mon now... when will this charade end?

I think the kid is starving for attention. The attention that he isn't getting at home.

By the way, MMA stands for Marine Military Academy.

NitroGSXR
03-15-2010, 12:14 AM
By the way, MMA stands for Marine Military Academy.

Ah! I can get behind that!

swtbound07
03-15-2010, 10:57 PM
the worst thing i ever did in my life was fail out of college. Point blank period. But if not for that, would i have my fiancee and my life and my 2 cats and a new turtle? I don't know.

JB
03-15-2010, 11:02 PM
the worst thing i ever did in my life was fail out of college. Point blank period. But if not for that, would i have my fiancee and my life and my 2 cats and a new turtle? I don't know.

A new turtle?

swtbound07
03-15-2010, 11:24 PM
A new turtle?

bought it this week

TheIronDuke
03-16-2010, 12:48 AM
Just wanted to point out that the OP didn't drop out of college, he got kicked out of 9th grade for not going to school. Pretty sure the parents are to blame on this one. Either way the OP is probably going to be a drain on our tax dollars in the near future.

badboy
03-16-2010, 11:06 AM
i was recently kicked out of school for missing so many days.....my great grandma *101 years old* is in the hospital and she like died 3 times but some how she made it shes in rehab now

she fell and broker her hip she had to have surgery she had a heart attack and her kidneys shut down 2 times i was so nervious i could not bring my self to go to school worried she would die

im relly sorry i got kicked out of school for this year! im going back next year and i will do alot beter




now for the good news!

she is now walking with a walker when she takes pain pills


and some news about me

i just got a call today from j and j nursery off of 2920 wanting me to work for them i got hired i go to work monday minium wageGreat news about your grandmother but not so great about you. For some reason I thought you were still in high school? Please clarify that. I get the feeling for some reason that if it were not your grandma, you would have found another excuse for leaving school. There are other avenues of education and job training beside college and you should explore all of them. I agree with the poster that said you need a good male role model in your life to guide you. I think joining a Biblical church would do wonders for you & many help with education and employment. You must be living at home if you think minimum wage will support you and why should your folks bear the weight of your poor decisions?
Come on guy, you need to start putting your life together. Keep me informed. I care about you.

Yankee_In_TX
03-16-2010, 11:22 AM
Errr, what are the rules in Texas for a) being expelled and b) working when you're of school age?

I ask because in Ohio, to get a job when of school age you had to get approval from the school system.

Section516
03-16-2010, 11:39 AM
I don't know about 'rules', But i know when i was in HS (graduated 2 years early, 2006) after a while the school gives up hope on you, puts you in some kinda work program, you go to work all day, get high school credits, and STILL graduate with a diploma. Kind of like early work release (coop) but a lot better.

disaacks3
03-16-2010, 03:17 PM
Errr, what are the rules in Texas for a) being expelled and b) working when you're of school age?

I ask because in Ohio, to get a job when of school age you had to get approval from the school system. If he's 16 (or older) he's pretty safe. If he's 15 or younger, without a hardship exemption, he's prohibited from working certain hours before/during school days.

Link to TX Child Labor Laws (http://www.twc.state.tx.us/ui/lablaw/cllsum.html)

silvrhand
03-16-2010, 04:06 PM
now for the good news!

she is now walking with a walker when she takes pain pills

and some news about me

i just got a call today from j and j nursery off of 2920 wanting me to work for them i got hired i go to work monday minium wage

I'm sorry but everyone has issues, don't use them as a crutch. I'm sorry about your great grandma but you have to face the facts she's not going to be around forever. You need to get back into school and finish, if you don't you are going to have a very hard time to make it in this world.

Just looking at your posts you had better start back at school sooner than later. I'm sorry to be so blunt, but IMHO you are making some bad choices, but then again it's not my life so you are more than welcome to tell me to go jump off a cliff.

Andrew6
03-16-2010, 10:54 PM
Brandon, that is highly unacceptable. We all have high hopes for you and were looking forward to hearing about your accomplishments during this school year. You need to do what ever it is you need to do to reach your goals. School is a pain in the arse but, but it will pay off heavy dividends if you make it through.
Try to focus on your future more and see what you can be not what you can't. Be good and if you need to talk feel free to give me a call.

awtysst
03-29-2010, 01:13 PM
I had some additional thoughts on thois subject I wished to share with you.

Something to consider. According to a recent poll, people without a highschool diploma were 50% times more likley than those with diplomas to be underemployed. Furthermore 21.5% of those surveyed without a highschool diploma were unemployed. In contrast, 12.3% of people with highschool diplomas were unemployed. http://www.gallup.com/poll/126995/Focus-Education-May-Reduce-Underemployment.aspx

The point is clear: get yourself back in school. in 2010 it is imperative to have a highschool diploma. life without a highschool diploma is exceedingly tough. Its tough to get a job, keep a job, and get a job that provides satisfaction without a degree.

The following are a series of steps I STRONGLY urge you to consider.

First, Find out what your classmates are reading for Literature classes and the types of writing assignments they needed to do. Put down on paper how you will read those books, write essays, etc. Find out what is happening in Math and Science too. use the web to develop a plan to continue to study those subjects independently. Begin to study those areas for a good 2 weeks. And when I mean study, I mean devote 50 minutes per day 5 days per week to each subject.

Second, go back to the school and beg, humble yourself, bargain, do whatever it takes to get back into school for the summer. Show your school your plan to study until then and then meet with the principal or some teacher there every couple of weeks to show your progress. At the initial meeting take a log of what you have done, demonstrate what you have learned, and show the school that you do not take your education for granted. Demonstrate to them that you did not sit on your butt during this time but you recognized your error and fully devoted yourself to your education.

Study at the same time each day and do not sleep in. Get up every morning by 7 and get started with studying by 8am every day. Taking your education seriously may go a long way to get back into school and will be immensely helpful for you down the line.

StarStruck
03-29-2010, 03:26 PM
Something about this account is questionable. How many days are we talking about? What age? Does the District have truency rules? If so, do your parents have to go to court and/or pay a fine? Are there alternative school settings for excessive absentees?

I am finding it hard to believe that a school would expel someone for a semester due to a truency issue or what could be seen as excused absences if parents contact the school. College, of course, but high school I need answers or will do some research.

AnthonyE
03-29-2010, 03:30 PM
i was recently kicked out of school for missing so many days.....my great grandma *101 years old* is in the hospital and she like died 3 times but some how she made it shes in rehab now

she fell and broker her hip she had to have surgery she had a heart attack and her kidneys shut down 2 times i was so nervious i could not bring my self to go to school worried she would die

im relly sorry i got kicked out of school for this year! im going back next year and i will do alot beter




now for the good news!

she is now walking with a walker when she takes pain pills


and some news about me

i just got a call today from j and j nursery off of 2920 wanting me to work for them i got hired i go to work monday minium wage

I used to volunteer at an assisted living community. A broken hip is very, very hard to recover from especially at her age. It's great to hear that she's doing so well given the circumstances.

As for school, I hope you get your act together. Once you stop going to school, it's really hard to come back. I know from experience. lol. Last year (my senior year in HS), I wasn't going to my first and second period classes. They were gym and english. I failed both. Luckily, I was able to make up that english credit using an online course. I finished it in 3 hours. But I had to take summer school gym. Very embarassing, because my family was expecting me to walk across the stage in June, but I had to wait until the end of July to graduate. It was awful. Biggest mistake of my life. I'm lucky that even with this bump, SHSU continued to enroll me rather than pull my acceptance.

Anyway, long story aside, I hope everything works out for you and your grandmother. Good luck with your new job as well.

HouSportsWriter
03-29-2010, 05:56 PM
Something about this account is questionable. How many days are we talking about? What age? Does the District have truency rules? If so, do your parents have to go to court and/or pay a fine? Are there alternative school settings for excessive absentees?

I am finding it hard to believe that a school would expel someone for a semester due to a truency issue or what could be seen as excused absences if parents contact the school. College, of course, but high school I need answers or will do some research.

i did have to go to court but they did not give a fine, and why the hell do yall keep saying im a troll, and im not guna give out personal info over the enternet no more so **** off and close this thread all i did was try to be nice to yall and all i get is neglet on another note thank you for the suport for my grandma and me....

NitroGSXR
03-29-2010, 06:22 PM
i did have to go to court but they did not give a fine, and why the hell do yall keep saying im a troll, and im not guna give out personal info over the enternet no more so **** off and close this thread all i did was try to be nice to yall and all i get is neglet on another note thank you for the suport for my grandma and me....

Nobody called you a troll. Jeez... Slaton's got fumblitis yet you still think he's a beast! That isn't the definition of a troll to me. You're a great fan. We all are.

...Although....

I'm somewhat skeptical of your intentions. I admit that. Do you know why I'm skeptical? I've seen intelligence in your posts. Bright as day. More than once. Strong intelligence too. This spelling issue of yours doesn't match up with the intelligence I've seen out of you. I think you're better than what you've been posting and you know it.

Life's all about choices. What's your next choice gonna be? It's only your life.

Hardcore Texan
03-29-2010, 07:18 PM
Things sure have changed here on Walton's mountain.

i did have to go to court but they did not give a fine, and why the hell do yall keep saying im a troll, and im not guna give out personal info over the enternet no more so **** off and close this thread all i did was try to be nice to yall and all i get is neglet on another note thank you for the suport for my grandma and me....

Look man, try to hang in there. You have gotten a lot of good advice from a lot of folks, most people are showing a real interest in you getting back in school and doing your best. Take their advice and get back to school no matter what, it can define the rest of your life if you don't. A good number of us have either lived it or someone very close to us has. No one here wants you to fail, but it's going to take some hard work and the end it's up to you. You can do it.

Joe Texan
03-29-2010, 08:06 PM
Look Man you are our Future and you need to take life with your head uP. I did not call you a Troll cause I know who you are. I want the best for you and right now School is it. If you do not like the school your in there are some alternatives like Houston Can Acadamy. I think Rich Lord can give me some info on them if you want it. I can also get you some info on a church school that will help you get your diploma. Man please listen your Diploma is so much more important now than when I was in school. And the difference between a college graduate and a high school drop out is about 50,000 dollars a year. that is to Start. DUde we all want the best for you that is why we ride you so much. and Believe me when I say do not take a lot of what is said on here to heart, it just might drive you crazy.

JB
03-29-2010, 09:20 PM
Look Man you are our Future and you need to take life with your head uP. I did not call you a Troll cause I know who you are. I want the best for you and right now School is it. If you do not like the school your in there are some alternatives like Houston Can Acadamy. I think Rich Lord can give me some info on them if you want it. I can also get you some info on a church school that will help you get your diploma. Man please listen your Diploma is so much more important now than when I was in school. And the difference between a college graduate and a high school drop out is about 50,000 dollars a year. that is to Start. DUde we all want the best for you that is why we ride you so much. and Believe me when I say do not take a lot of what is said on here to heart, it just might drive you crazy.


Careful Joe, people might start to think you have a heart!:texflag:

Joe Texan
03-29-2010, 09:22 PM
Careful Joe, people might start to think you have a heart!:texflag:


Who Me?

awtysst
03-29-2010, 10:52 PM
i did have to go to court but they did not give a fine, and why the hell do yall keep saying im a troll, and im not guna give out personal info over the enternet no more so **** off and close this thread all i did was try to be nice to yall and all i get is neglet on another note thank you for the suport for my grandma and me....

I am actually a bit surprised and disappointed by your attitude. There have been a lot of people on here that have cared enough about you to give you some very solid advice. You are one of the youngest people (if not the youngest) that comes to this board. One of the advantages you could have is seeking the advice of people who have lived very different lives. Some people here were in your position at one time and wish to offer you some advice. Others of us have seen or know people that were in your position and see what happened to them.

All we can do is offer you advice. Whether you choose or not to follow it or not is obviously up to you. But, I am getting the feeling you really do not want to hear what I have to say. And that is perfectly acceptable. So, I will honor your choice and not offer any more advice to you, until you specifically ask me.

Best of luck to you, young man.

HouSportsWriter
03-29-2010, 11:00 PM
I think the kid is starving for attention. The attention that he isn't getting at home.

By the way, MMA stands for Marine Military Academy.

this is why i got so upset .... and hang on ill post more

HouSportsWriter
03-29-2010, 11:02 PM
Your parents just let you not go to school? Very responsible parenting! :clap:

My grandmother died of cancer, in my house, two months before I graduated high school. I think I maybe missed one day of school. I cannot believe your parents would be so irresponsible to let you skip school because your great grandmother was sick.

i agree with this but the 1st part is not true and i dont like it when people start saying stuff they dont know for one none of yall met me *yet* and the only person i ever talked to was on the phone was andrew

gary
03-29-2010, 11:09 PM
Just go back to school bro and from there everything will work out for you in the long run. Good luck and I want to stay informed.

HouSportsWriter
03-29-2010, 11:11 PM
if i would go thru all my 500 posts i would get over 100 posts of neglet but all i say is that one post was not for thos who suport me but the ones that stuff thats not true or who wants me to go to that school and laugh about it....

i didint want to say this but yall should no....

yall didint relise at the time when i started this post i was willing to kill my self like 1 week before my great grand maw got sick i was in a mental hosbital
im adhd bypoler and verry high depreshan they fixed my meds and im doing alot beter please dont bring this part up im trying to get over it thank you

and one last thing thos who say i dont want suport your wrong

thats the whole reason i posted update on school and this post to give yall more info


and my spelling is actuly relly good its just when i get nervus i cant think
my iq is 113,,,, oh ya ill fix my spelling later to nervus right now

HouSportsWriter
03-29-2010, 11:11 PM
thanks gary

Chance_C
03-31-2010, 05:07 PM
Good luck to ya dude. Keep your head up, and set goals for yourself. And everyone is right, go back to school.

Props to everyone on the board. This is a cool place, and I appreciate the good hearts that I see in here. This kid ended up in the right place for advice, and it's really all on him to turn the tide in his life. If he was my kid, I would be hunting you all up and thanking you.

IBleedTexans
03-31-2010, 06:01 PM
if i would go thru all my 500 posts i would get over 100 posts of neglet but all i say is that one post was not for thos who suport me but the ones that stuff thats not true or who wants me to go to that school and laugh about it....

i didint want to say this but yall should no....

yall didint relise at the time when i started this post i was willing to kill my self like 1 week before my great grand maw got sick i was in a mental hosbital
im adhd bypoler and verry high depreshan they fixed my meds and im doing alot beter please dont bring this part up im trying to get over it thank you

and one last thing thos who say i dont want suport your wrong

thats the whole reason i posted update on school and this post to give yall more info


and my spelling is actuly relly good its just when i get nervus i cant think
my iq is 113,,,, oh ya ill fix my spelling later to nervus right now

In all seriousness, i was just like u going up.Always demanding attention,( me me me type of person). You just need to understand that the world doesn't revolve around you. Once you get that thru ur mind you'll be just fine.

old_man_1898
04-01-2010, 02:30 AM
I don't want to be all preachy, but you should really try to go back to school. I know it can be tough, and often times, schools do not sufficiently support the efforts of struggling students, but you have to realize how lucky you are to leave in America were you have a chance to go to school and better yourself. Trust me, it is not so in most of the countries in the world. Just think about it dude.

And besides, college is pretty fun...if you know what I mean. lol

On a side note: It is really cool that the people on Texans talk are so caring and connect with each other on such a deep level, rather than just spewing sports jargon at each other.

NitroGSXR
04-01-2010, 02:50 AM
I don't want to be all preachy, but you should really try to go back to school. I know it can be tough, and often times, schools do not sufficiently support the efforts of struggling students, but you have to realize how lucky you are to leave in America were you have a chance to go to school and better yourself. Trust me, it is not so in most of the countries in the world. Just think about it dude.

And besides, college is pretty fun...if you know what I mean. lol

On a side note: It is really cool that the people on Texans talk are so caring and connect with each other on such a deep level, rather than just spewing sports jargon at each other.

Wut?

Other than that... decent post, old man. That's what I called my dad. Old man.

old_man_1898
04-01-2010, 04:00 AM
Wut?

Other than that... decent post, old man. That's what I called my dad. Old man.

LOL. I am actually in college, I just made that email to play yahoo games.

And about the US comment, I say that from experience. I grew up in a place where not everyone can go to college, so it is actually a pretty big deal to me to be able to go to school; not because of my performance, but because I would not e allowed to do so.

awtysst
04-01-2010, 08:35 AM
Wut?

Other than that... decent post, old man. That's what I called my dad. Old man.

how lucky you are to live in America.

NitroGSXR
04-01-2010, 09:42 AM
how lucky you are to live in America.

It was a joke, awtysst. I understood him just fine. I just thought it was funny is all.

GP
04-01-2010, 01:06 PM
I teach at a school, and there is a middle school kid who has a high IQ. He has problems with communicating because his mind moves faster than he can write or type.

It's hard to understand, because we don't have that problem. But apparently it really exists. He's not dumb, he just has a problem processing and communicating.

Which probably works itself out in other ways: Going through intense feelings of depression and disconnected from normalcy due to the condition.

Communication is the key, and he is figuring that out. Just starting a thread and talking about it (and knowing that we care about him) will boost him. Also GETTING a job, and KEEPING the job, and doing a GOOD job, and having PRIDE in what he does will also boost him. Because when he starts having success and people at his work appreciate him for it, it ought to be a pretty good way to make him desire to go back to school and apply himself there.

However, look at back at OUR experiences in middle school and freshman year of high school. That's not the place to be, if you are "different" from the others. You're going to catch hell ona minute-by-minute basis. because teenagers are cruel and don't care about "community."

It's a pretty sad atmosphere for someone to be in, if they already have coping issues and are different from others.

Do a good job at your job, make them PROUD that they took a chance and hired you. Do not skip work. Do not be late. Act as if this employer is the one who starts you back on the right track. Then use that bit of success and go back to school next year.

And if you ARE sandbagging it, and faking it (as some have suggested) then it will catch up with you some day. And you will have cried wolf, and you will not have anyone to help you or care for you when it's actually needed the most. But I think you're truthful.

awtysst
04-01-2010, 01:16 PM
It was a joke, awtysst. I understood him just fine. I just thought it was funny is all.

Sorry! Just trying to be helpful!

HouSportsWriter
04-01-2010, 01:44 PM
I teach at a school, and there is a middle school kid who has a high IQ. He has problems with communicating because his mind moves faster than he can write or type.

It's hard to understand, because we don't have that problem. But apparently it really exists. He's not dumb, he just has a problem processing and communicating.

Which probably works itself out in other ways: Going through intense feelings of depression and disconnected from normalcy due to the condition.

Communication is the key, and he is figuring that out. Just starting a thread and talking about it (and knowing that we care about him) will boost him. Also GETTING a job, and KEEPING the job, and doing a GOOD job, and having PRIDE in what he does will also boost him. Because when he starts having success and people at his work appreciate him for it, it ought to be a pretty good way to make him desire to go back to school and apply himself there.

However, look at back at OUR experiences in middle school and freshman year of high school. That's not the place to be, if you are "different" from the others. You're going to catch hell ona minute-by-minute basis. because teenagers are cruel and don't care about "community."

It's a pretty sad atmosphere for someone to be in, if tey already have coping issues and are different from others.

Do a good job at your job, make them PROUD that they took a chance and hired you. Do not skip work. Do not be late. Act as if this employer is the one who starts you back on the right track. Then use that bit of success and go back to school next year.

And if you ARE sandbagging it, and faking it (as some have suggested) then it will catch up with you some day. And you will have cried wolf, and you will not have anyone to help you or care for you when it's actually needed the most. But I think you're truthful.

i so totaly agree with this post i have a very hard time conctraiting but i do have a average iq its like i try to do something but my mind races some times it takes me 3 hours to go to bed because of it ....any how i agree with all you said

badboy
04-01-2010, 02:06 PM
I teach at a school, and there is a middle school kid who has a high IQ. He has problems with communicating because his mind moves faster than he can write or type.

It's hard to understand, because we don't have that problem. But apparently it really exists. He's not dumb, he just has a problem processing and communicating.

Which probably works itself out in other ways: Going through intense feelings of depression and disconnected from normalcy due to the condition.

Communication is the key, and he is figuring that out. Just starting a thread and talking about it (and knowing that we care about him) will boost him. Also GETTING a job, and KEEPING the job, and doing a GOOD job, and having PRIDE in what he does will also boost him. Because when he starts having success and people at his work appreciate him for it, it ought to be a pretty good way to make him desire to go back to school and apply himself there.

However, look at back at OUR experiences in middle school and freshman year of high school. That's not the place to be, if you are "different" from the others. You're going to catch hell ona minute-by-minute basis. because teenagers are cruel and don't care about "community."

It's a pretty sad atmosphere for someone to be in, if they already have coping issues and are different from others.

Do a good job at your job, make them PROUD that they took a chance and hired you. Do not skip work. Do not be late. Act as if this employer is the one who starts you back on the right track. Then use that bit of success and go back to school next year.

And if you ARE sandbagging it, and faking it (as some have suggested) then it will catch up with you some day. And you will have cried wolf, and you will not have anyone to help you or care for you when it's actually needed the most. But I think you're truthful.Excellent post!

Porky
04-01-2010, 02:11 PM
Good luck to you Mr. Slatonisabeast.

Hey, it's a tough cruel world out there. Better to understand that now, because when you are 30 with a job, wife, maybe kids and bills to pay, nobody is going to understand that your Grandma is sick and you don't feel like going to work. Those are the cold hard facts.

Whoever said life is easy is lying. But, it can be very rewarding. Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. How are you going to react to your situation? Let me give you two very pertinent Anthony Robbins quotes because they apply to you directly. I want you to read and aborb these quotes and think about them carefully as they apply to your life because you are truly at a crossroads.

quote 1 - You are now at a crossroads. This is your opportunity to make the most important decision you will ever make. Forget your past. Who are you now? Who have you decided you really are now? Don't think about who you have been. Who are you now? Who have you decided to become? Make this decision consciously. Make it carefully. Make it powerfully.

And quote 2 - If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten.

badboy
04-01-2010, 02:26 PM
i so totaly agree with this post i have a very hard time conctraiting but i do have a average iq its like i try to do something but my mind races some times it takes me 3 hours to go to bed because of it ....any how i agree with all you saidADD/HAD runs in my family. For me, if feel under pressure my mind also races. When talking with someone face to face, I try to have an answer before they are finished talking. At work, when presented with several issues at once, I find my self talking faster & faster & faster. It is very difficult to slow down and as a control, I try to get away from my desk and the problems for a few minutes to get my "snap" and then return. It has to be a conscious effort to slow. My son was the same & began getting in trouble @ middle school. As I worked in child psychology at that time I was given very specific ideas to help him and me. The techniques did help greatly.

I respect you for bringing this to our attention. Do not be ashamed but don't just push it aside. It can be better.

Texanmike02
04-01-2010, 03:24 PM
i so totaly agree with this post i have a very hard time conctraiting but i do have a average iq its like i try to do something but my mind races some times it takes me 3 hours to go to bed because of it ....any how i agree with all you said

The miltary actually prescribes me ritalin for ADHD. I don't take it because I can't stand the way it slows down my thought process. I will suggest though, that you take up a complicated hobby. I am an avid pool player as well as a poker player. The reason is the complexity of the games. Instead of thinking about 30k things, one thing (all of the shots and possibilities vs counting cards/outs for every player on the table etc etc etc...) at a time... like pool and what's happening next is very relaxing. I am usually most relaxed when I am doing something that forces me to think about just that activity.

Hope that helps. And regardless... get your ASS back in school. I know its hard to concentrate but you will learn valuable coping skills for later in life. From this point on either you can define your life or you can let it define you... no amount of coaching or training can help you in that manner.

Mike

Mike

Grams
04-01-2010, 06:41 PM
My grandson has ADD. They wanted to prescribe some sort of meds for him also. But we have gone a different direction.

First we have cut down his sugar content - only sugar-free items do we buy for him (and the rest of us when he is over). We check all packages and only get items with 2 gms of sugar or less. If they use sugar alcohol is is half what reg sugar is. 4gm sugar alcohols = 2 grms reg sugar

We have also cut out all red, yellow, blue and green dyes. This on the advice of a neurologist that we know. He stated that sometimes it is food alergies that make people "over-active".

While he is still an active normal 6 year old boy. It really has calmed him down quite a bit. He goes to bed at a resonable hour - 7:30 -8 pm every night without any hassle.

He will even check the packages himself to check for dyes and sugar content.

The sugar free ice cream is pretty good.

Texanmike02
04-01-2010, 06:48 PM
My grandson has ADD. They wanted to prescribe some sort of meds for him also. But we have gone a different direction.

First we have cut down his sugar content - only sugar-free items do we buy for him (and the rest of us when he is over). We check all packages and only get items with 2 gms of sugar or less. If they use sugar alcohol is is half what reg sugar is. 4gm sugar alcohols = 2 grms reg sugar

We have also cut out all red, yellow, blue and green dyes. This on the advice of a neurologist that we know. He stated that sometimes it is food alergies that make people "over-active".

While he is still an active normal 6 year old boy. It really has calmed him down quite a bit. He goes to bed at a resonable hour - 7:30 -8 pm every night without any hassle.

He will even check the packages himself to check for dyes and sugar content.

The sugar free ice cream is pretty good.

Another thing that is good is caffeine. I drink a ton of tea a day just to get my caffeine, I know it sounds crazy but its a stimulant and basically it has the opposite effect for me that it does of most people. If I don't get my caffeine I'm a mess, not in an addicted way (though I am) but in a jumping all over the walls crazy kind of way. It makes no sense but this is about a 10 year experiment I've got going. I gave that advise to a coworker and after a little messing with what works they get a cokes worth of caffeine with every meal and he's off his meds and doing great.

They don't know what actually causes ADHD but they do know that stimulants help reduce the symptoms. For an alternative look into ADHD look here:
http://borntoexplore.org/evolve.htm


Mike

Grams
04-01-2010, 07:27 PM
Another thing that is good is caffeine. I drink a ton of tea a day just to get my caffeine, I know it sounds crazy but its a stimulant and basically it has the opposite effect for me that it does of most people. If I don't get my caffeine I'm a mess, not in an addicted way (though I am) but in a jumping all over the walls crazy kind of way. It makes no sense but this is about a 10 year experiment I've got going. I gave that advise to a coworker and after a little messing with what works they get a cokes worth of caffeine with every meal and he's off his meds and doing great.

They don't know what actually causes ADHD but they do know that stimulants help reduce the symptoms. For an alternative look into ADHD look here:
http://borntoexplore.org/evolve.htm


Mike

Yes - forgot the caffeine. It does have the opposite effect on ADHD.